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“There is a perception that speaking up for boundaries is somehow introducing conflict into a situation, or at very least, escalating it in an unkind way, like, everything was fine until you spoke up for your needs and now you made it weird. But not speaking up is not making the situation better, it’s just giving the other person more license to operate and communicating that you are okay with the behavior. There is no prize for being the world’s most stoic and accommodating person. A friendship that cannot survive a the momentary discomfort of you standing up for your needs is not actually a friendship worth holding onto.
Nobody loves being told that they are screwing up, obviously, but if you don’t have the ability to ever take any negative feedback along the lines of “Hey, could you not do that one thing anymore, thanks?” from a friend, YOU are the problem. When told that they are stepping on someone’s foot, good adult people will apologize and get off the foot and not perpetuate a FEELINGSDUMP about their need to really stand on feet sometimes. Communicating “Hey, that’s where my boundary is, thanks” IS KINDNESS. It is giving the other person the tools they need to be in a good relationship with you.”
Jennifer Peepas (via astheshadowslovethecastle)
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I read your autism criteria and I think I might have a milder form of autism?? They really helped but my therapist refuses to believe me because I talk well with adults (sometimes) and look people in the eye. Am I just projecting or is my therapist being close minded?
I have literally no idea.
I get asks like this a lot, and I’m really unclear why—do people think I’m a professional of some kind who can magically diagnose them on the internet? I’m just an autistic person who wrote a list of what I think are (most of) the major, important parts of being autistic that are recognizeable to other people. It’s great that the list has generated such interest and support from the community, but I am not a clinical researcher or diagnostician.
Maybe your therapist is right. Maybe you are. I don’t know you, and even if I did I couldn’t offer a pocket diagnosis guide. If you’re in the US there is probably a good autism diagnostic clinic within your state. If you happen to be in North Carolina, I can thoroughly reccomend TEACCH. If you end up doing more research than glancing at an unverified list some weirdo on the internet typed up and continue to think autism may be a good descriptive fit for you and your neurology, talk to someone qualified to diagnose you. I’ve had some shitty therapists and psychiatrists try to give me terrible, bullshit reasons why I “can’t” be autistic because of prejudices they hold about what developmental disorders have to look like. Maybe you’ll never find someone to diagnose you, or you’ll decide you don’t want that. Self-dx has its place. But reading a checklist and then asking a complete stranger for a diagnosis is not going to work.
Holy crap, how did it get to be April??
I’ll be at the Rose Street Artists’ Market on Saturday the 5th and Sunday the 6th, and also the 13th and 20th. I hope to see you there!
So for April Fools, Threadless had blank t-shirts for sale.
I bought 4.
I’m pretty pleased with myself.
when you say poolnoodle cucumberbench is unattractive and ppl go “are [picture of him] you [gif of him] confused [extreme hq pic]” and i’m like yeah no that dude’s ugly you just keep posting pictures of the ugly dude what am i supposed to do with this information
She noticed it one day. It was so slight, she could not be sure how long it had been going on for. All the reflections seemed to have a slight delay.